Sexual Techniques | Sex Advice
Learning to be a better lover is a lifelong and delightful project. Our lovers are our teachers -- and we can all learn from the experts, too. There are many wonderful books available today. We've selected our favorites -- pick one of these and begin a fascinating journey with your partner.
Recommended Books on Sexual Techniques | Sex Advice
Anal Pleasure and Health: A Guide for Men, Women and Couples
For many years the focus of fear and disgust, the anus is actually one of the human body's most wondrous creations-elegant, efficient, and richly supplied with pleasure nerves. However, stress and ignorance can turn the anus and its functions from a source of delight into a painful disability. What's needed is an owner's manual-and here it is! Join therapist and sexologist Jack Morin, Ph.D., on this tour of the anus, complete with information and exercises to open the door to new sources of comfort and gratification. You'll unlearn habits that can cause everything from hemorrhoids to chronic pelvic pain- and, if you choose, learn new ways of achieving solo and partnered pleasures through this humblest of portals. 2010, Down There Press, 4th revised edition
The Art of Orgasm for Men and Women: The Multi-Orgasmic Couple (2 DVDs)
In this explicit two-DVD program on sexual pleasure for men and women Tantra teachers Kosha Deva and Sohini Genevieve offer step-by-step demonstrations of the methods used to attain the highest possible levels of sexual pleasure, deepening their intimate connection. The programs demonstrate detailed techniques for achieving easy and effective communication during lovemaking, ejaculation mastery for men, and deepening orgasmic pleasure for women. You will learn profound ways of connecting Heart and Sex to open the doors to deep intimacy. Commentary by Margot Anand. 2006, Pacific Media
The Art of Sensual Yoga: A Step-by-Step Guide for Couples
Combining lush, evocative photos with an easy-to-follow text appropriate even for beginners, this book shows readers how the shared physical closeness of yoga can lead the way to greater sensual harmony. 140 color photos. 1997, Plume
The Art of Sexual Ecstasy: The Path of Sacred Sexuality for Western Lovers
This landmark book on human sexuality makes the sacred lovemaking techniques of the east fully comprehensible to western readers. Elegantly illustrated and filled with detailed exercises, it helps the reader acquire new attitudes and broaden his or her range of experience. The book is especially strong on methods for couples to revitalize and strengthen their relationship. 1991, Jeremy P. Tarcher
Better Than Ever: Love and Sex at Midlife
Famed sex therapist, Bernie Zilbergeld, gives the good news that one does not have to be twenty in order to enjoy a deeply satisfying life of love. In this book, he explains the wonderous world of love and sex among men and women aged 45 - 87. He provides practical solutions to common obstacles that get in the way of love and sex. 2005, Crown House Publishing
Beyond Orgasm: Dare to be Honest about the Sex You Really Want
"This is a wonderful, very human book about how, why and at what price we hide the truth, especially our sexual truths, from ourselves and each other. Using lots of examples, humor and compassion the author discusses the challenges of self acceptance, sexual honesty and genuine intimacy." (Amazon reviewer) Highly recommended. 2002, Ten Speed Press
Breathing Ecstasy: Finding Sexual Bliss Using the Incredible Power of Breath
Take your lovemaking to incredible new heights by using one of nature's greatest gifts: the breath. By learning simple breathing techniques, you can overcome the blocks that have kept you from true sensual satisfaction, or take an already fulfilling sexual relationship to the next plane of pleasure. In Breathing Ecstasy Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks present their unique mind-body approach that has helped thousands of couples break through to a new dimension of fulfillment. 2003, Three Rivers Press
Discovering Your Couple Sexual Style: The Key to Sexual Satisfaction
Barry and Emily McCarthy urge couples to ignore what they see on TV, in books, or online, and discover their own unique sexual style. They offer three guidelines for sexual satisfaction: Develop positive, realistic sexual expectations; explore sensual and sexual options; and communicate sexual desires. With this foundation, couples can take a straightforward survey to determine which of four couple sexual styles best fits their relationship. An understanding of couple sexual styles can play a vibrant role in energizing a couple's bond and contribute to a satisfying relationship that integrates intimacy and eroticism. 2009, Routledge
Dr. Sprinkle's Spectacular Sex: Make Over Your Love Life with One of the World's Great Sex Experts
Annie Sprinkle has done it all. From porn star to stripper to performance artist to sex-life coach, she has confronted (and experimented with) just about everything sex-related under the sun. In Dr. Sprinkle's Spectacular Sex, she shares with readers a powerful program for improving the overall quality of your life through better understanding and embracing one of the most powerful sources of happiness in our lives: sex. Annie Sprinkle provides encouragement and inspiration for anyone who longs for greater intimacy, excitement, and pleasure. She invites readers to make a virtual visit to "Dr. Sprinkle's Sex-Life Makeover Spa," where they will undertake a fourteen-step program that begins with "Makeover Your Mind" and ends with "Bask in the Afterglow." 2005, Jeremy P. Tarcher
Ecstatic Sex: Breathing Exercises for Heightened Pleasure and Deeper Intimacy
Ecstatic Sex: Breathing for Heightened Pleasure and Deeper Intimacy offers a series of proven breathing and visualization exercises -- some to practice alone, some with a partner -- that gives listeners the opportunity to experience a new level of sexual bliss. Dr. Hendricks' research has shown that conscious breathing is essential to health and vitality. Now he guides listeners on a new pathway to fulfillment for people who seek radical enhancement and deep healing of their sexuality. 2004, Sounds True
The Enlightened Sex Manual: Sexual Skills for the Superior Lover
The secret to enlightenment and great sex is revealed to be one and the same in this groundbreaking manual for adventurous lovers. David Deida was trained for decades in the art of spiritual and sexual awakening. Now he presents the ultimate collection of skills for opening to the physical, emotional, and spiritual rewards of intimate embrace. The Enlightened Sex Manual teaches you how to transform simple "skin friction" into the depths and embodiment of ecstasy, how to develop sexual abilities as gifts of heart rapture and bodily surrender, how to achieve the principal types of orgasm--and all their varieties--and much more. 2007, Sounds True
Erotic Massage: Sensual Touch for Deep Pleasure and Extended Arousal
Erotic Massage instructs readers on how to bring their partners to high levels of arousal, keeping them in this state of sexual exaltation for an extended period. The book provides erotic massage techniques for both men and women. It breaks down these massage methods step-by-step, and gives suggestions for appropriate setting, lubrication, good communication, and conscious breathing. Fifty sensual, how-to photographs are provided. 2007, Quiver
ESO: How You and Your Lover Can Give Each Other Hours of Extended Sexual Orgasm
Drs. Alan and Donna Brauer have redefined what it means to unlock sexual potential. Through years of research and clinical work, they have developed an amazing technique which will revolutionize readers' sex lives. This classic guide explores the mental and emotional as well as the physical and will help readers learn how to use new discoveries in anatomy to increase pleasure; apply advanced stimulation techniques; employ honest communication to give and get more pleasure; overcome inhibitions, solve problems, and enrich relationships; and give partners more pleasure than ever before. 2001, Grand Central Publishing
Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot: Not Your Mother's Orgasm Book!
Like men, women also can ejaculate, enhancing and intensifying their sexual pleasure. In an open, positive style, Deborah Sundahl presents information about female ejaculation including scientific findings, anatomical illustrations, historical accounts, a chapter on how men can help their female partners to ejaculate, and women's and men's experiences collected during the past two decades. 2003, Hunter House
This comprehensive "how to" book on sex is entertaining, honest and enlightening. It is written in a casual style and filled with enjoyable quotes from real couples and sex therapists. Beautiful line drawings illustrate the chapters which also include a great deal of information on sexuality as a cultural phenomenon. Particularly useful for heterosexual couples. 2012, Goofy Foot Press, 7th edition
Let Me Count the Ways: Discovering Great Sex Without Intercourse
Two of America's leading sex and gender experts show readers how to make sex more enjoyable by breaking away from the repetitive mechanics of intercourse. The book describes a path toward a more varied, playful and intimate sexuality, debunking myths such as "impotence," "frigidity," and "foreplay;" indeed the book shatters the myth that intercourse equals sex itself. 1999, Putnam
Making Love: Sexual Love the Divine Way
Making Love: Sexual Love the Divine Way is a book about the mistakes we've all made in confusing love with sex. It contains Barry Long's essential tantric teaching on how to rediscover the true union of man and woman. Barry Long attacks male sexuality as a corruption of love on this planet and claims that most unhappiness arises because we have forgotten how to make love rightly. He restores the place of romance and gives couples very practical advice on how to change their sexual behaviors so that they can realign their love for each other with the love of God. 2006, Barry Long Books
Mastering Multiple Position Sex takes the traditional sex manual a step further by outlining entire bedroom scenarios, from seduction to sexplay to positions, including the transitions in between. Both partners learn what to do, how to do it, and what to do next--eliminating any awkward or disappointing moments and creating the sexual tension that leads to amazing climaxes. Each of the 14 scenarios has a different theme, and features one method of foreplay, two sex positions, and the buildup to mutual pleasure. Each chapter is accompanied by instructive and eye-catching Quiver photography. 2009, Quiver
The Mother's Guide to Sex: Enjoying Your Sexuality Through All Stages of Motherhood
Semans and Winks approach sex and motherhood from four angles: basic components of women's sexuality, sex and pregnancy (just before, during, and just after), sex as a parent, and raising sexually healthy children. The work is greatly enhanced by copious quotations from several hundred moms who shared experiences and tips via surveys the authors posted online. Married, single, heterosexual, and lesbian moms are all included, and often overlooked issues such as circumcision, disability, or having an intersexed child receive coverage. 2001, Three Rivers Press
The Multi-Orgasmic Couple: Sexual Secrets Every Couple Should Know
The Multi-Orgasmic Couple will show you and your partner how to experience intense multiple whole-body orgasms; pleasure each other profoundly; use sexuality for health and healing; deepen your love and spiritual relationship. Couples will discover simple step-by-step techniques for a level of sexual pleasure, intimacy, and healing they may not have known was possible. This fully illustrated guide will inspire couples to make love all night-and make love last a lifetime. 2002, HarperOne
The New Good Vibrations Guide to Sex: The Most Complete Sex Manual Ever Written
This candid, upbeat, friendly guide to enhancing your sex life insists that "there's more sexual pleasure available than most people experience" and "achieving this pleasure should not be difficult, dangerous or expensive." Explicit line drawings show sex between male-female, male-male, and female-female partners as well as solitary acts with vibrators. Its wide-ranging and entertaining mix of information and good humor make this book useful to people of all ages and persuasions. 2002, Cleis Press
"The best all-around sex manual for older adults." Thorough coverage of the effects of normal aging, medical problems, and drugs on sexuality and how to overcome roadblocks; physical and emotional sexual fitness; singlehood and relationships; sexual enhancement tips; dating, remarriage, and one's children; and finding help. 2002, Ballantine Books
The Orgasm Bible: The Latest Research and Techniques for Reaching More Powerful Climaxes More Often
Everything that readers should know about orgasms is here, from the best ways to make one happen to the latest research that explains them. Sexy and instructive photography lead the reader on an authoritative journey through the world of ultimate pleasure. An orgasm is something to cultivate, and learning how to experience an orgasm -- or multiple ones -- can take you and your partner's sex life to an exciting new level. The Orgasm Bible teaches readers how to do just that, instructing them on how to build seduction and foreplay into their lovemaking, the importance of communication, and myths they need to dispel regarding techniques and strategies. 2008, Quiver
Orgasms for Two: The Joy of Partnersex
Dr. Dodson debunks the myths that keep us from having satisfying - and mutually satisfying - sex lives. She shows us how to be happier and healthier through the benefits of pleasure, and she shows us how to get to know ourselves and our partners better, whether it's the inner and outer workings of the anatomy or the best sex toys to bring to bed. Open Orgasms for Two and see how rewarding it is to cast aside conventional beliefs about sexuality and begin to enjoy the best sex of your life. 2002, Harmony
Passionista: The Empowered Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man
Dr. Ian Kerner offers women his sometimes radical, always expert advice on everything from the nature of male desire to bedroom techniques that work. In Passionista, Kerner covers every angle of male sexuality, illuminates the most common sex-life ruts, and offers practical, knowledgeable answers to women's most frequently asked questions. 2008, Harper
Sexual Awareness: Couple Sexuality for the Twenty-First Century
This book is written for people who want to enhance intimacy and sexual satisfaction. It is a practical, confidence-building book that shows you how to increase your sexual pleasure, focusing on feelings and fulfillment for both partners. 2002, Carroll & Graf Publishers; Revised and updated edition
Sexual Ecstasy: The Art of Orgasm
In Sexual Ecstasy, Margot Anand offers a magnificently illustrated, concise, and step-by-step guide to giving magical orgasms to your partner, male or female. Sexual Ecstasy will help you bring fresh awareness to sexually sensitive areas and new ways of caressing these areas; open the way for ecstatic states of orgasm; reveal and dissolve psychological and emotional blocks inhibiting the flow of orgasmic energy; and enhance communication between you and your love partner, deepening your sense of intimacy. 2000, Jeremy P. Tarcher
She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman
"When it comes to pleasuring women and conversing in the language of love, cunnilingus should be every man's native tongue," writes clinical sexologist Ian Kerner, Ph.D. He first explored "the oral caress" as a way of compensating for his premature ejaculation difficulties and quickly learned that women not only welcomed but often preferred "the way of the tongue," reaching orgasm more consistently than through intercourse. Dr. Kerner educates readers about the clitoris, "the powerhouse of pleasure," with 18 parts and 8,000 nerve endings (twice as many as the penis) and clearly describes the complexities of female sexual response. 2004, Collins Living
Soul Sex: Tantra for Two
Al Link
Through the authors' mix of ancient Eastern sexual practices and modern Western approaches to communication and intimacy, you and your partner will learn to connect in ways that are respectful, nourishing, and lusty. Pala and Al offer their relationship as a model for a successful, long-term relationship in which to be happy, fulfilled, and spiritually awakened. Soul Sex includes thought-provoking discussions, personal anecdotes, and precise but simple techniques to inspire you to apply to your daily life. The observations and exercises included are drawn from the authors' own heady partnership and from the hundreds of couples they have had the privilege to teach at their Tantra sacred sex workshops. 2008, Career Press
Ten Keys to Successful Sexual Partnering
"Healthy sexuality is always safe, sane, and consensual." These simple words sum up the essence of Barratt's wise and generous counsel for successful sexual partnering. This helpful guide offers direct, non-judgmental recommendations for people of all orientations and practices. 2005, Xlibris
Transcendent Sex: When Lovemaking Opens the Veil
Developmental psychologist Wade claims that lovemaking can be a path to soulful realization. In this book based on first-hand accounts of nearly 100 respondents, she describes ordinary people's spontaneous spiritual awakenings through transcendent sex. Wade describes many forms that mystical may take, provides warnings on the down side of altered state sex and offers suggestions for facilitating transcendent sex. A fascinating and unusual book. 2004, Pocket
The Ultimate Guide to Cunnilingus: How to Go Down on a Woman and Give Her Exquisite Pleasure
This book is a resource for people who are looking to expand their expertise or are simply curious. Sex educator Violet Blue provides step-by-step instructions for going down on a woman as well as accurate up-to-date information on female anatomy and response. In a friendly, witty tone, Blue discusses games for lovers, positions, safe sex, a variety of techniques, erotic book and video recommendations and tips for effectively communicating with a partner. 2002, Cleis Press
The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio: How to Go Down on a Man and Give Him Mind-Blowing Pleasure
This book addresses many misconceptions women have about the male sexual cycle and male orgasm, touching on the unique individuality of every man. No two men are exactly alike in need, in preferences, in touch. 2002, Cleis Press
